Noel J. Lytle

Noel J. Lytle 
August 27, 1941 - October 15, 2019 

Noel Lytle, age 78, peacefully passed away after an abrupt and difficult battle with cancer. Noel is survived by his adored wife, Anita, his three children, Tracy (Pat) Humes, LeAnn (Rick) Kovar, and Kristen (John) Lancaster; his five grandchildren, Kira, Justin, Ben, Maggie and Elizabeth; his siblings Farrel, Julene and Larry and a loving extended family. He was preceded in death by his parents Wayne and Justine Lytle, and his brother Eldon.

Noel grew up on a ranch in rural Rose Valley in northeastern Nevada, a place that remained important to him throughout his life. He attended Brigham Young University, earning his bachelor's degree in Psychology, followed by a master's degree in Social Work from the University of Utah. After grad school, Noel moved with his young family to Santa Rosa, CA where he began his long and valued career in social work and psychotherapy.

Noel was an avid reader and gladly shared his extensive book collection with others. He also loved riding motorcycles. He enjoyed nothing quite as much as riding the open road on a beautiful day. A history buff, Noel put his extensive knowledge as well as his love of the Spanish language to use as a docent with the State Historic Parks Association. He worked at the mission in Sonoma and the Petaluma Adobe. Noel had great respect for the natural world, and relished quiet time spent at his cabin in the coastal redwoods. Noel's love for his family was profound; he cherished time spent talking, laughing and sharing stories with his loved ones.

A celebration of Noel's life will be held in Santa Rosa, details to follow. In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to your favorite charity

Joe Seaver

Our beloved friend, Joe Seaver, passed away on June 11th. He was a loving presence and dedicated supporter of our Center in countless ways, including service on our stewardship team and legacy team.

There will be a memorial service to celebrate Joe's life, here at the Center, on Saturday, July 13th at 2:00. Joe's family welcomes all who can attend.

Please join us to honor Joe, the kind soul who often asked, "Has anyone told you how wonderful you are?

Lynn Susan Werner


Lynn Susan Werner


Lynn Werner passed in her sleep in the early hours of March 14th. Having lived a full and adventuresome life, her death was peaceful and well supported with family at her side. Born March 1, 1948 in Brooklyn, New York to Clara and Joe Werner, she was the older sister of Shelley. Lynn came to California at the age of 20 after graduating Brooklyn College with her B.A. in Sociology. Heading toward Berkeley in the early 70’s, Lynn was a child of her times. Rejoicing in the freedom she felt being in California, Lynn explored life in its manifold possibilities. Delighting in natural beauty, Lynn found her joy in the journey and exploration from the lowest desert to the highest mountain.

Early in life, she decided life would be better as a mother. And, with the help of Amber's father, Roy, she was, at 24. Settling in San Francisco, Lynn raised her daughter largely as a single mother, giving her all the love and nurturing accorded the incredible being she created. Amber was her love and her light, creating meaning and direction. Lynn became the parent she did not have, even maintaining shared custody for her child’s benefit. Lynn embraced her role, sharing housing and support with other single mothers. The Single Parent Network, a self –help group she established with her longest held friend Vonnell Bettencourt, became a widely acclaimed and stable resource in San Francisco. Through her work and volunteer efforts in human services, Lynn gave loving support and comfort to hundreds of people.

She recalled fondly the exciting days of working together with other parents to create an alternative parent run childcare center, at the time named Yoey Preschool, which became part of San Francisco Unified School District. She and her co-conspirators for early childhood education made decisions through consensus and wore green to align the psychic energy to their goals. Lynn tended to be quiet, but when things got out of hand, she was the one who restored civility. Yoey Preschool, now renamed, Bessie Carmichael, is still serving children, a testament to her and her peers vision and skill.

A psychic told Lynn she would be married by the time she was 35. At 34 she met David. They were married in Tilden Park in 1982, in what Amber described as a “delightfully unpretentious ceremony”. It was officiated by Lynn’s dear friend Vonnell Bettencourt, a Universal Life Minister. What can one say about marriage that lasts to death do us part? Love deepens and expands, creating the best in both. Lynn and David loved to play. Together for long trips and shared passions, they enjoyed life in all its manifestations, from walking on the beach to rafting wild rivers. A trip through the Grand Canyon awakened them to their next phase in life and in 1997 they moved to Sonoma County. A year later they found their dream home in Sebastopol and settled into new careers and a wonderful community of friends.

Other than Amber, Lynn and David raised no other children until Kyle was born to Amber and Simon, her beloved since her Sophomore year in College. Kyle filled that place in David for a child and he was transformed by the relationship. Lynn was equally blessed to have Kyle in her life. They were able to get together at least once or twice a month throughout Kyle’s childhood despite the distance between Sebastopol and Berkeley. This proximity, while not a daily connection, allowed Kyle to be a loving presence in their lives as he grew into the wonderful young man he is today. Lynn’s sister Shelley and her sister’s boyfriend Randy were a great joy to her as well, expanding this small family with an abundance of love.

Family and friends remember Lynn as a Grandma swelling with pride as Kyle met the challenges of life. When he was only 3 years old, she and David took Kyle out in a boat for the first time. With Grandma in the water and lifejacket on, he jumped into the water, safe in the arms of love.

Lynn was an astrologer. Always looking for the meaning of life, she explored many aspects of new thought and metaphysics. Throwing the I Ching, laying the Tarot cards, consulting the stars, Lynn wanted answers for why life was the way it was. It went with her passion to make the world a better place. She wanted to know how to end suffering, starting with her own. She joined spiritual study groups, attended workshops and took classes to grow in self-awareness. When her sister Shelley arrived in Santa Rosa in 2004, she introduced Lynn to the Center for Spiritual living where she shed old beliefs to recreate herself as a powerful presence and Community Steward. Deeply manifesting her connection to life, she touched all she met with love.

Shelley was loved by Lynn. They were best friends in addition to being sisters. Spending lots of time together, they shared a life view and enhanced each other - emotionally and spiritually. Together they took spiritual awareness classes growing in consciousness together. With David and Randy, they enjoyed their family get-togethers and as they grew old together, they transcended their early childhood repairing those experiences with a deep and abiding love.

Being deeply concerned about the environment, Lynn used her efforts and resources to help improve the world. Once working as the Toilet Rebate Queen of San Francisco, in the City’s Water Conservation program, she set up a way to help folks conserve by giving away thousands of low flow toilets at various sites around the City. At City College, the line was so long it threatened the freeway onramp. When one of the trucks carrying hundreds of toilets was delayed by a slight mishap negotiating the steep hills around the give-away site, Lynn stopped a stampede by placing her body between the public and the truck, long enough for authorities to be called.

Lynn also contributed to an environmental sustainability report for the City. Members of the environmental, spiritual and human rights groups she belonged to over the years, will remember Lynn fondly. She used her many talents and abilities to give her all for the causes she embraced. In later life, her goal was to be a beacon of love in the world. Eschewing the long held strategy of protesting what’s wrong with the world, she came to see the good everywhere and in everyone. She spoke inspirationally to hundreds of people who were empowered by her belief in them. She truly cherished all of life and was particularly touched by those motivated to change their lives. Those to whom she gave her love, her time and her talent, will carry forward the good she did.

Lynn is survived by her husband, David, daughter Amber, sister Shelley, grandson Kyle, son-in-law Simon, Shelley’s partner Randy, and numerous friends both young and old. Though her body is no longer with us, she will always remain in our hearts. A private celebration of Lynn’s life will be held at Santa Rosa Center for Spiritual Living on April 20, 2019. Contributions may be made in Lynn’s memory to Greenpeace or the Sonoma County Folk Society.

"Ted" Theodore Dreier

Born June 21st 1929 and Died February 4th 2019.

Obituary for Dr. Theodore Dreier, Jr.

Dr. Theodore Dreier Jr., a retired psychiatrist whose interests ranged from medical research to playing the cello and writing poetry, and who raised four children with his wife, Katharine, died Feb. 4 in Lincoln, Mass.

Dreier, 89, a longtime Cambridge and Belmont resident, studied dance as a young man with famed choreographer Merce Cunningham, graduated from Harvard College and prepared to become a professional musician in Germany before switching to a medical career. His psychiatric practice spanned the lifecycle, beginning with children, at Boston Children’s Hospital; proceeding to couples’ therapy; and evolving to specialize in geriatrics at McLean Hospital in Belmont, where he worked for more than 30 years.

Despite the decade of study and training that he knew it would entail, Dreier decided to become a doctor after helping innovative Philadelphia psychiatrist John Nathaniel Rosen treat mentally ill patients. “Those 10 years are going to pass anyway,” Dreier reasoned, “and at the end of them, do I want to be a psychiatrist, or not?” He took pre-med courses at night, and then attended Temple University School of Medicine, graduating in 1961. He did his internship at San Francisco General Hospital and completed a residency in psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital.

Throughout his life, Dreier oscillated between two main themes, “artistic expressive” and “intellectual scientific,” as he described them in Harvard reunion notes. During the 1960s at Boston Children’s Hospital, he conducted research with Dr. Peter Wolf on infant sucking and breathing patterns, publishing results in medical journals. In his 80s, he sang in the Harvard-Radcliffe Chorus, returned to writing poetry and drawing and painting.

Toward the end of his life, Dreier retained his ability to waltz and to appreciate music ranging from classical to bluegrass.

Born in Albany, New York, Dreier acquired the nickname “Quintus” as the fifth “Theodore Dreier” in his family. His father, Theodore Dreier Sr., a General Electric Co. engineer, and his mother, Barbara Loines Dreier, went on to have two more sons and a daughter. When Ted Dreier Jr. was 4, they moved from Winter Park, Florida, to North Carolina, helping to found the legendary Black Mountain College. Faculty at the experimental school included Cunningham, artists Willem de Kooning and Josef and Anni Albers, inventor R. Buckminster Fuller, architect Walter Gropius and composer John Cage.

As a boy, Dreier attended the Asheville Farm School. He enjoyed raising goats, naming them Abercrombie and Fitch. Growing up in the college’s vibrant artistic and academic community, Dreier “…caught, by contagion, some of the excitement of the avant-garde musicians, painters and poets who were drawn there,” he wrote in 2001.

After graduating from Vermont’s Putney School, Dreier attended Black Mountain College for two years. He transferred to Harvard, where he majored in music, graduating cum laude in 1952.

At a Cambridge dinner party in 1965, Dreier met Katharine Eaton Read, a recently widowed mother of two and teacher at Shady Hill School. Kit, a fellow cellist, invited him to join her chamber music group. Their courtship included visits to her family in Vermont and his parents on Martha’s Vineyard and in Lake George, New York. With two small cars, they could not drive anywhere together with their cellos.

The couple married in 1967. Dreier legally adopted her two children, Richard Eaton Read and Katharine Hallett Read. Two more children, Elizabeth Low Dreier and Ruth Antoinette Dreier, were born in 1967 and 1969. The family, which had grown to fit into a Volkswagen bus, settled into a Cambridge home. Ted and Kit Dreier lived in the house at 70 Fayerweather St. for 26 years. They moved in 1994 to Belmont, where Kit was elected as a Town Meeting member and helped to lead historic preservation and land conservation projects. They moved last year to The Commons in Lincoln retirement community.

In 1972, the couple built a rustic Martha’s Vineyard summer home on Seven Gates Farm, a community co-founded by Dreier’s maternal grandparents. Nicknamed Cranberry Hollow, the shorefront house was the site for 40 years of family vacations and reunions. Dreier enjoyed swimming and snorkeling in Vineyard Sound, clearing brush and gardening, and joining friends and neighbors for cookouts, sing-alongs and charades.

Dreier passed away peacefully at Care Dimensions Hospice House. Survivors include his wife, Kit, of Lincoln; sister, Barbara Beate Dreier of Livingston Manor, New York; his three daughters, Katharine Read Villars and her husband, Thomas, of Norwich, Vermont, Elizabeth Low Dreier, of Menlo Park, Calif., and Ruth Antoinette Dreier, of Santa Rosa, Calif.; son, Richard Read of Portland, Oregon; and granddaughter, Nehalem Kunkle-Read, of Somerville, Mass. Two brothers, Mark and Edward, predeceased Dreier.

A memorial gathering will be held in spring, at a date to be announced.

Memorial donations may be made to the Black Mountain College Museum and Arts Center,, or the Vineyard Conservation Society,

Chuck Griswold

My father, Chuck Griswold, passed away in an automobile accident on the morning of December 17th, near the California/ Arizona border.

He was 73, and enjoyed a full life; he was a Vietnam veteran, a giving father to 5 sons and a proud grandfather of 6 grandkids.

Chuck found a caring, spiritual place at the Center for Spiritual Living in the summer of 2011.
Having just completed the 12-step AA program, a friend recommended the Center as a joyous place, with positive, healing energy; just the kind of space he was looking for at that point in his life. He attended for 7 years, until this fall, when he moved to the dessert to get pain relief from old war injuries. He would have wanted to thank Dr. Edward and the entire Center community for the classes that helped him grow as a person and the spiritual services.

If anyone would like to share a fond memory of Chuck, please add it to the comments on this post.

Much love to all,

Loren Griswold

Margaret (Midge) L. Cobaugh

Mother, Registered Nurse, nature enthusiast, traveler.

Midge passed away at the age of 95 with two of her daughters beside her. Despite her health challenges, she always worked hard to maintain her Self, her dignity, and her sense of humor. She is survived by three daughters and a foster son.

Midge loved life, the ocean, flowers, hugs and laughter, big band music, reading, the CFSL community, dancing, and adventures big and small. Although shy in groups or with strangers, she loved parties and sharing meals with friends and family. Midge also loved gardening, PBS, camping and hiking, and birds. She always dreamed about being a pilot so she could soar like the birds.

With a career in nursing that spanned 45 years, Midge worked in hospitals, a doctor’s office, an amusement park, clinics, and a YMCA summer camp for 20 years. Additionally, she also helped launch a rural hospice program.

After searching for many years, Midge found her spiritual home with the Center for Spiritual Living. She especially enjoyed the upbeat music and friendly people. She struggled with some of the classes, but she never gave up trying to understand the concepts being taught. She was active for many years with the Seniors in Spirit group and enjoyed all the activities.

Midge had a generous heart that touched many lives. She was also a feminist and supported many social justice causes including LGBTQ rights and equality for all Native American and African American people. She never stopped wanting to learn new things and had a tireless curiosity about the world.

Even at the end of her life, Midge made an effort to smile and say “thank you” to each visitor and caregiver.

Betty J Garcia

Mother, teacher, sister, practitioner, lover of animals and all nature, Betty Garcia, passed away at home in the loving company of her daughter, Kate and brother, Tom. Betty was a giving, loving, friend and an example of faith in Love and God to all those who were blessed to know her. For over 20 years, Betty shared her time and love, touching the lives of many students from elementary age through adult.

She was at total peace with the upcoming transition, looking forward to being with her mom again and of course being one with Spirit. It all happened quickly and she often said, “All of this is Divinely guided. This is just perfect”

The message she left for her daughter, Kate, was, “I love you desperately. Katie, you are the most important person in my life.”

When she passed, her brother Tom said, “She is going to get run over by all the animals at the Rainbow bridge!” She was a St Francis of sorts and throughout out her life she had countless animals for which she loved and cared.

Betty was very involved at CSLSR in the Heart in Hand ministry, serving our community in this capacity for many years. Another of her favorite projects was which providing backpacks for children going back to school and collected much needed classroom supplies for teachers. She continuously studied and took classes at the center.

She will be remembered with much respect, love and admiration. Betty was a teacher to her last days, modeling not only how to die with grace and peace, but teaching us all that it is possible to end this lifetime with a sense of gratitude, excitement and anticipation about what will be next.