Rebekah “Becka” Kelley



Rebekah “Becka Kelley, died unexpectedly on March 26, 2018 at the age of 33. She most recently resided in Santa Rosa, CA, previously of Wayne, MI. Beloved daughter of Samantha Goodell, and the late Steven DeLong. Step- daughter of Walter Goodell.

 

Becka’s gentle nature and loving presence touched many lives here at the Center for Spiritual Living Santa Rosa. She was a member of the One Heart Choir, a co-facilitator and workshop presenter for the young adult group (from 2012-2015) and often served as an announcer for our Sunday morning services. 

 

Her love for healthy plant based foods was often shared via some tasty treat that she lovingly prepared for group events and throughcontributions to the Sunday morning food team.  

 

An informal gathering of friends will take place on May 4th at 5:30 pm in Waggoner Hall, located in the North Wing of the Center for Spiritual Living Santa Rosa, 2075 Occidental Road, Ca. 95401. 

 

Memorial contributions may be made in Rebekah’s name to Devils Tower Natural History Association, ATTN: Sandra Mooney, P.O. Box 37, Devil's Tower, WY 82714



 

 

 

Jeanette Doyle




Jeanette Mancini Roush Doyel passed away on February 28,2018. Forestville native, Analy grad, R.N. and volunteer for many organizations. Survived by her three daughters, large extended family, and innumerable friends. Donations may be made in her honor to the Laguna Foundation or the Humane Society of So.Co. A celebration of life will be on April 7, 2018, from 1:00-3:00 p.m., 7800 Giusti Rd. Forestville, CA. Please carpool, if possible.

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Jacque Mielke


Jacque Mielke was born in 1936 in San Jose, CA.  In 1957 after graduating from San Jose State College with a teaching degree/art minor, she taught 5th grade in Campbell for a few years then in 1959 went to Germany with the Armed Forces and taught in Geissen.  She met Don, an NY State veterinarian/soldier there and they married in 1963.  They had two children, Carl, in 1965 and Jennifer, in 1966.

They lived in Tahoe City for 20 years.  Don had a veterinary clinic there, and Jacque had an arts and crafts retail store called Ideas Unlimited where she taught photography and stained glass classes.

In 1985 they moved to Sonoma County, and after "creating, running, and selling" the Gravenstein Inn in Graton, they moved in 1994 to Pond Hollow in Sebastopol.  Jacque enjoyed being a member of AWS and The Sebastopol Center for the Arts where her work has appeared in their exhibits.  She also supported  Art for Life and has been featured on their auction booklet cover.

Jacque has enjoyed being involved with Science of Mind since the 1950s and this Center since 1985.

John Monteith Gray, M.D.,

John Monteith Gray, M.D., one of the Bay Area’s leading orthopedic spine surgeons, passed away peacefully at his home in Windsor on the morning of January 17, 2018. Dr. Gray had been battling cancer. At the time of his death, John was surrounded by his beloved wife Nancy, his dog Sadie, and close friends and family.

Dr. Gray was the youngest of two children born to the late Margit and Donald Monteith Gray on May 27, 1943. Dr. Gray was extremely proud of his heritage, of growing up in Kansas City, his Scottish, English, Welsh and Swedish lineage, and his family. His father Don was a vice president of Hallmark International; his mother Margit was a home economics teacher and dedicated homemaker, and his “second mother” Frances (Keeney) Gray, was a lead artist for Hallmark.

After receiving a BA from Westminster College in Missouri, and attending medical school at the University of Kansas, Dr. Gray headed to the West Coast to complete his orthopaedic residency training at the University of California in San Francisco, and fell in love with the Bay Area. He continued his studies to complete his postgraduate training at Harvard Medical School in Boston. As a lieutenant commander in the U.S. Navy, Dr Gray served as Chief of Orthopaedics at Roosevelt Roads Naval Hospital in Puerto Rico.

After his tour of duty, Dr Gray returned to the Bay Area in 1978 to begin his long-standing private practice of Pediatric Orthopedics and Orthopaedics of the Spine. He was on staff at California Pacific Medical Center for 35 years, as well as Marin General, Santa Rosa Memorial, and Sutter Santa Rosa Hospitals. He specialized in scoliosis in adult and pediatric patients, spinal deformities, and degenerative conditions of the spine. He was well known for his proactive conservative approach to back care, and taught his patients a “back safe” lifestyle to prevent back pain and reduce the need for surgical intervention.

Dr. Gray was widely respected by his colleges and a father figure to many of his young scoliosis patients. He was chosen by his peers as one of the top 100 doctors in the Bay Area, one of only 10 orthopedic surgeons to receive this prestigious award.

Dr. Gray trained numerous orthopedic and pediatric residents and attained the level of Full Clinical Professor of Orthopedic Surgery at UCSF. In addition to his busy practice, he volunteered his time for many years at Shriner’s Hospital in San Francisco in surgery on extremely complex spinal deformities in children.

Dr. Gray was on the Board of Trustees at Unity in Marin, where he met and married his wife Nancy. The couple loved living in the wine country, exploring wineries and the richness of beautiful Sonoma County.

As his friends knew, Dr. Gray had a delightfully dry sense of Midwestern-style humor. He was a passionate music fan, played guitar, sang in his church choir, and loved bands of the ‘60s, especially Peter, Paul and Mary. But his favorite pastime was his spectacular garden filled with roughly 150 rose bushes, a fruit orchard and a vegetable garden with 20 different varieties of heirloom tomatoes that he famously distributed among friends and coworkers. He would joke that like the rich who make money while they sleep, his tomatoes were growing while he was in surgery, and that made him a truly wealthy man. For everyone who knew him, John was one of the most gracious, generous, kind, and loving gentleman they ever met.

Mourning him are his wife Nancy Gray and her family; sister Susan Gray Detweiler and her husband Will Detweiler of Philadelphia; sons Andrew, Alexander and Logan Gray of Melbourne, Australia; nephew John Detweiler of Philadelphia and nieces Margit Detweiler of Brooklyn, New York and Sara Gray Detweiler Loughman of Farmington, Connecticut.

Nancy Gray would like to invite all to join in a celebration of Dr. Gray’s life that will be held on March 24, 2018 at 2:00pm at Unity in Marin, 600 Palm Drive, Novato, CA. Spring was his favorite season. Please visit http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/johnmgraymd/homepage.aspx to be posted of further details on the memorial service or to leave a memory or a tribute to Dr. Gray. In lieu of flowers, honorary contributions can be made to North Bay Fire Relief Fund (Redwood Credit Union) to support those affected by the recent North Bay fires.



Susan Kay Voliver (Ritchey)





Kay, age 74, passed away on January 7, 2018 after multiple bouts with cancer and complications from a five-year battle with Primary Progressive Aphasia. She was born in Galion, OH to Fred and Bonnie Ritchey, just eleven months after her sister Mary. Everyone called her “Sooky” – the combination of Sue and Kay.

Life wasn’t easy in Ohio, so she made her way to Indianapolis where she met her soon-to-be husband Bob. They married December 3, 1966, started a family, and made their way out west to California. A 42-year resident of Rincon Valley, she loved Santa Rosa and immersed herself into volunteer programs that made the city a better place, but family always came first. She was active in her children’s schools, and helped build a library on the east side of Santa Rosa with the Rincon Valley Library Commission.

Her largest volunteer efforts were with the Luther Burbank Home and Gardens, where she directed two “Living History” days, and the Santa Rosa Rural Cemetery, where she launched and directed the popular Lamplight and Womens’ History Tours. Professionally she spent five years as City Staff Coordinator at LBH&G, and an additional four years at the Convention & Visitors Bureau. She continued to immerse herself in local history by co-authoring “Santa Rosa, California in Vintage Postcards” with her husband. Upon his retirement, they pursued an antique business as dealers at Whistlestop Antiques for many years.

With the birth of her grandson, the author bug bit again, and over the course of six years she
produced three “Adventures with Annie in Santa Rosa” children’s books – highlighting the local tales of her beagle/foxhound mix Annie.

Widowed in 2011, Kay is survived by her two children David and Sara, son-in-law, Keith, sisters
Mary and Sharon, and grandson Mason. A memorial service is planned for January 20 at 2:00, at the Center for Spiritual Living, 2075 Occidental Road in Santa Rosa. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Santa Rosa Rural Cemetery/City of Santa Rosa, the Center for Spiritual Living, or the Sonoma County Historical Society. Or do as she would’ve done and give time to an organization or cause that inspires you.

Keith Kelsay




What a year! At least the weather is mild and the sunsets are gorgeous here.  I hope this finds you all basking in the aftermath of the Christmas flurry. 

I am sorry to tell you – especially at this holiday time-- that Keith passed away about
2 a.m. Sunday morning. Died peacefully in his recliner I am glad to say, and  probably quickly. There was no pained expression on his face when I padded into the living room to see what he was doing up. (Not unusual for him to wake up and read for a while at night.) He had a heart condition and I expect to hear that cause of death was that his heart just gave out. We were finishing last details of moving in and sorting records and he left everything in good-to-excellent order, it seems.

He was so happy to be up here; I’m sorry he didn’t enjoy it longer, but I know he Was frustrated that his body was giving out and he did not want to linger. Probably at this more spiritually oriented time of year he just rolled into Spirit’s arms.

I am sad to lose him; he spoiled me so; and my moments of grief are intense, but I am  not heartbroken in the usual sense of that word. I feel that he can realize his purpose better as pure Spirit. Managing thru Chuck’s death in 2003 and our studies at Ctr for Spiritual Living have given me a better perspective on the death of the body than I’ve had. I am stepping thru procedures: making a list and letting it be my daily guide.

Realizing how many friends we have as I send this email has strengthened my faith in connection and allayed much of the disorientation his loss has brought.

Valerie Kelsay

Bonnie Carol Armstrong


ARMSTRONG, Bonnie Carol 72, passed away peacefully, at her home in Santa Rosa CA, on October 10, 2017. Bonnie was born in New York in August, 1945 to O. Carolyn and John Johnson, Sr. Bonnie has called Sonoma County and Santa Rosa home for over 40 years, and is survived by her brothers Jim and John Jr., sister Jaci; two daughters Aubrie and Jennifer; seven nieces and nephews, great-aunt to eight. During her career, Bonnie worked as a meter maid in San Mateo, a field technician with the Santa Rosa Police Dept, and it was through her work with the city, that she decided to volunteer her time in the chaplaincy program. She was actively involved in the Santa Rosa Center for Spiritual Living beginning in the 1980s and became a spiritual practitioner. Bonnie was a writer, and had a poet's heart. She aspired to create a book of her poetry and continued to write through most of her life. Bonnie was an avid bowler, and sports enthusiast, she was a member of many leagues and teams throughout the years. She enjoyed exercise, and Bonnie could be seen these past few years walking all throughout Santa Rosa, stopping for a coffee at Starbucks, saying hello to neighbors, or having a chat with strangers along her way. She was an artistic crafter, and many of her friends and family have received at least one of her famous crocheted blankets or scarves for holidays and birthdays. Bonnie was loved by many for her patience and kind spirit, she will be dearly missed, and her sweet laughter will forever remain in our hearts and minds.

1945 - 2017

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