Obituary for Dr. Theodore Dreier, Jr.
Dr. Theodore Dreier Jr., a retired psychiatrist whose interests ranged from medical research to playing the cello and writing poetry, and who raised four children with his wife, Katharine, died Feb. 4 in Lincoln, Mass.
Dreier, 89, a longtime Cambridge and Belmont resident, studied dance as a young man with famed choreographer Merce Cunningham, graduated from Harvard College and prepared to become a professional musician in Germany before switching to a medical career. His psychiatric practice spanned the lifecycle, beginning with children, at Boston Children’s Hospital; proceeding to couples’ therapy; and evolving to specialize in geriatrics at McLean Hospital in Belmont, where he worked for more than 30 years.
Despite the decade of study and training that he knew it would entail, Dreier decided to become a doctor after helping innovative Philadelphia psychiatrist John Nathaniel Rosen treat mentally ill patients. “Those 10 years are going to pass anyway,” Dreier reasoned, “and at the end of them, do I want to be a psychiatrist, or not?” He took pre-med courses at night, and then attended Temple University School of Medicine, graduating in 1961. He did his internship at San Francisco General Hospital and completed a residency in psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital.
Throughout his life, Dreier oscillated between two main themes, “artistic expressive” and “intellectual scientific,” as he described them in Harvard reunion notes. During the 1960s at Boston Children’s Hospital, he conducted research with Dr. Peter Wolf on infant sucking and breathing patterns, publishing results in medical journals. In his 80s, he sang in the Harvard-Radcliffe Chorus, returned to writing poetry and drawing and painting.
Toward the end of his life, Dreier retained his ability to waltz and to appreciate music ranging from classical to bluegrass.
Born in Albany, New York, Dreier acquired the nickname “Quintus” as the fifth “Theodore Dreier” in his family. His father, Theodore Dreier Sr., a General Electric Co. engineer, and his mother, Barbara Loines Dreier, went on to have two more sons and a daughter. When Ted Dreier Jr. was 4, they moved from Winter Park, Florida, to North Carolina, helping to found the legendary Black Mountain College. Faculty at the experimental school included Cunningham, artists Willem de Kooning and Josef and Anni Albers, inventor R. Buckminster Fuller, architect Walter Gropius and composer John Cage.
As a boy, Dreier attended the Asheville Farm School. He enjoyed raising goats, naming them Abercrombie and Fitch. Growing up in the college’s vibrant artistic and academic community, Dreier “…caught, by contagion, some of the excitement of the avant-garde musicians, painters and poets who were drawn there,” he wrote in 2001.
After graduating from Vermont’s Putney School, Dreier attended Black Mountain College for two years. He transferred to Harvard, where he majored in music, graduating cum laude in 1952.
At a Cambridge dinner party in 1965, Dreier met Katharine Eaton Read, a recently widowed mother of two and teacher at Shady Hill School. Kit, a fellow cellist, invited him to join her chamber music group. Their courtship included visits to her family in Vermont and his parents on Martha’s Vineyard and in Lake George, New York. With two small cars, they could not drive anywhere together with their cellos.
The couple married in 1967. Dreier legally adopted her two children, Richard Eaton Read and Katharine Hallett Read. Two more children, Elizabeth Low Dreier and Ruth Antoinette Dreier, were born in 1967 and 1969. The family, which had grown to fit into a Volkswagen bus, settled into a Cambridge home. Ted and Kit Dreier lived in the house at 70 Fayerweather St. for 26 years. They moved in 1994 to Belmont, where Kit was elected as a Town Meeting member and helped to lead historic preservation and land conservation projects. They moved last year to The Commons in Lincoln retirement community.
In 1972, the couple built a rustic Martha’s Vineyard summer home on Seven Gates Farm, a community co-founded by Dreier’s maternal grandparents. Nicknamed Cranberry Hollow, the shorefront house was the site for 40 years of family vacations and reunions. Dreier enjoyed swimming and snorkeling in Vineyard Sound, clearing brush and gardening, and joining friends and neighbors for cookouts, sing-alongs and charades.
Dreier passed away peacefully at Care Dimensions Hospice House. Survivors include his wife, Kit, of Lincoln; sister, Barbara Beate Dreier of Livingston Manor, New York; his three daughters, Katharine Read Villars and her husband, Thomas, of Norwich, Vermont, Elizabeth Low Dreier, of Menlo Park, Calif., and Ruth Antoinette Dreier, of Santa Rosa, Calif.; son, Richard Read of Portland, Oregon; and granddaughter, Nehalem Kunkle-Read, of Somerville, Mass. Two brothers, Mark and Edward, predeceased Dreier.
A memorial gathering will be held in spring, at a date to be announced.
Memorial donations may be made to the Black Mountain College Museum and Arts Center, www.blackmountaincollege.org, or the Vineyard Conservation Society, www.vineyardconservation.org.
My father, Chuck Griswold, passed away in an automobile accident on the morning of December 17th, near the California/ Arizona border.
He was 73, and enjoyed a full life; he was a Vietnam veteran, a giving father to 5 sons and a proud grandfather of 6 grandkids.
Chuck found a caring, spiritual place at the Center for Spiritual Living in the summer of 2011.
If anyone would like to share a fond memory of Chuck, please add it to the comments on this post.
Much love to all,
Mother, Registered Nurse, nature enthusiast, traveler.
Midge passed away at the age of 95 with two of her daughters beside her. Despite her health challenges, she always worked hard to maintain her Self, her dignity, and her sense of humor. She is survived by three daughters and a foster son.
Midge loved life, the ocean, flowers, hugs and laughter, big band music, reading, the CFSL community, dancing, and adventures big and small. Although shy in groups or with strangers, she loved parties and sharing meals with friends and family. Midge also loved gardening, PBS, camping and hiking, and birds. She always dreamed about being a pilot so she could soar like the birds.
With a career in nursing that spanned 45 years, Midge worked in hospitals, a doctor’s office, an amusement park, clinics, and a YMCA summer camp for 20 years. Additionally, she also helped launch a rural hospice program.
After searching for many years, Midge found her spiritual home with the Center for Spiritual Living. She especially enjoyed the upbeat music and friendly people. She struggled with some of the classes, but she never gave up trying to understand the concepts being taught. She was active for many years with the Seniors in Spirit group and enjoyed all the activities.
Midge had a generous heart that touched many lives. She was also a feminist and supported many social justice causes including LGBTQ rights and equality for all Native American and African American people. She never stopped wanting to learn new things and had a tireless curiosity about the world.
Even at the end of her life, Midge made an effort to smile and say “thank you” to each visitor and caregiver.
Mother, teacher, sister, practitioner, lover of animals and all nature, Betty Garcia, passed away at home in the loving company of her daughter, Kate and brother, Tom. Betty was a giving, loving, friend and an example of faith in Love and God to all those who were blessed to know her. For over 20 years, Betty shared her time and love, touching the lives of many students from elementary age through adult.
She was at total peace with the upcoming transition, looking forward to being with her mom again and of course being one with Spirit. It all happened quickly and she often said, “All of this is Divinely guided. This is just perfect”
The message she left for her daughter, Kate, was, “I love you desperately. Katie, you are the most important person in my life.”
When she passed, her brother Tom said, “She is going to get run over by all the animals at the Rainbow bridge!” She was a St Francis of sorts and throughout out her life she had countless animals for which she loved and cared.
Betty was very involved at CSLSR in the Heart in Hand ministry, serving our community in this capacity for many years. Another of her favorite projects was which providing backpacks for children going back to school and collected much needed classroom supplies for teachers. She continuously studied and took classes at the center.
She will be remembered with much respect, love and admiration. Betty was a teacher to her last days, modeling not only how to die with grace and peace, but teaching us all that it is possible to end this lifetime with a sense of gratitude, excitement and anticipation about what will be next.
March 25, 1917 - April 3, 2018
David C. Goode passed away suddenly on April 3rd, 2018 in Santa Rosa, California.
David had just celebrated his 101st birthday the previous week with family and close friends.
David was born at home on March 25th, 1917 in Oakland, California. David is survived by the "love of his life" of 33 years, Joan Marie Goode.
David has five children, seven grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.
David was a proud veteran of World War II. He received the Bronze Star Medal as a Staff Sergeant in the U.S. Army for meritorious achievement in connection with operations on Biak Island, Netherlands East Indies and in the Philippine Islands during 1945. David served in the Pacific Theater running the post office for the 41st Infantry.
Prior to his military service, David began working in the Oakland Post Office. After military service, David rejoined the Postal Service where he worked his way up to Postal Inspector. After a 38 years career with the Postal Service, David took a position with the United States Justice Department performing background investigations on current and prospective new hires.
David owned and operated a mortgage business with his wife for 13 years. David has attended services at Center for Spiritual Living for more than 30 years.
David was loved deeply by those around him and will be remembered as a humble and compassionate man who always looked out for others and loved his family.
Memorial Service to be held on Saturday, May 5th at 1 p.m. at Santa Rosa, Center for Spiritual Living, 2075 Occidental Road, Santa Rosa, CA where David attended services on Sunday, and when he couldn't he would listen to the radio broadcast on KSRO AM Radio 1350 at 8:30 am.
Rebekah “Becka” Kelley, died unexpectedly on March 26, 2018 at the age of 33. She most recently resided in Santa Rosa, CA, previously of Wayne, MI. Beloved daughter of Samantha Goodell, and the late Steven DeLong. Step- daughter of Walter Goodell.
Becka’s gentle nature and loving presence touched many lives here at the Center for Spiritual Living Santa Rosa. She was a member of the One Heart Choir, a co-facilitator and workshop presenter for the young adult group (from 2012-2015) and often served as an announcer for our Sunday morning services.
Her love for healthy plant based foods was often shared via some tasty treat that she lovingly prepared for group events and throughcontributions to the Sunday morning food team.
An informal gathering of friends will take place on May 4th at 5:30 pm in Waggoner Hall, located in the North Wing of the Center for Spiritual Living Santa Rosa, 2075 Occidental Road, Ca. 95401.
Memorial contributions may be made in Rebekah’s name to Devils Tower Natural History Association, ATTN: Sandra Mooney, P.O. Box 37, Devil's Tower, WY 82714